beantownbubba wrote:Even if you previously ran the marathon, it "couldn't have been you" - empathy and sympathy do not require making it all about you no matter how far the stretch.
This is interesting, bubba. By nature, do you believe marathoners are narcissitic and marathon culture breeds or attracts narcissism? What about people who feel more connected than others (but were not actally there) to the tragedy & subsequent events? I haven't "lived" in Boston since 1997, but it is my home. It is who I am. I was born in Brigham & Women's Hospital in 1973. I was raised in the Boston area in a middle-class, Irish/Catholic family. To many of the people I went to college with (a small, private liberal arts college in Upstate New York), to my surprise, I represented what they imagined Boston to be. You can take the boy out of Boston, but you can't take the Boston out of the boy. I still have family & friends in the area. Some were directly affected by the events, some were not. I wasn't in the literal sense, but this whole thing hit me hard. It hit me very hard. I don't begin to pretend my life was impacted like the Campbell, Richard, Lingzi, or Collier families were. None of my family or friends lost a limb or were seriously wounded. But, like many people, the whole thing pissed me off. Right or wrong, I feel more connected to what happened in Boston than any other tragic event (including 9-11) that has transpired in my lifetime. My feelngs are my feelings. Are they less 'valid' than those who lost someone they love or had someone they love suffer life-altering injuries? Maybe my feelings are less significant (somewhat selfishly, thankfully so), but I have a hard time saying they're less valid. Maybe I'm a narcissist, too. Or maybe the town I grew up in fostered such a sense of pride & passion within me that I was not consciously aware of until the tragedy & recovery of the past week happened. I mean, I fucking despised the whole "Sweet Caroline" phenomenom that has swept over Fenway Park the past decade. Yet, as I watched Neil Diamond leading the Fenway faithful in a live rendition this past weekend, I was smiling ear-to-ear & tears were streaming down my cheeks. Corny, cheesy, hokey or not, David Ortiz summed it up perfectly for me, "This is our fuckin' city!" Like millions of others who were born, raised or lived there, Boston is
MY city.
You are entitled to your opinion, but you are not entitled to your own facts.
- DPM